The New You Starting in 2013

Robert Terson

It’s the last day of 2012 and if you’re like most people, you’re contemplating some New Year’s resolutions for 2013 and beyond. If so, good for you! One of my favorite sayings is Today is the First Day of the Rest of Your Life. It is, you know. The past is always behind you and if you’re determined enough to grow, to become a better you, the past need not have any bearing on the future.

If you don’t believe that, you might keep in mind Abraham Lincoln, whose career has seen a lot of attention lately because of Steven Spielberg’s new movie “Lincoln.” Abraham Lincoln’s career was strewn with failure after failure—a whole string of them—until he won the Big Prize, the presidency. Another analogy often cited is Thomas Edison’s 10,000 failed attempts before finally succeeding in his light bulb experiments.

So, if you desire a new you, it’s there for the taking, if you want it badly enough. I suggest you make a list of all the traits, behaviors, and weaknesses about yourself that you think need changing/improving. Next to each of those write out a short description of what/who you’d rather be; perhaps you might add to that an example of someone you admire whom you could emulate. I once used the late actor Cary Grant (or rather the personality he displayed in his movies) as the example I wanted to match. I pretended I was that personality, which helped me to eventually become more like that personality. No, I didn’t make it all the way, I didn’t become as cool as Cary Grant; but Nicki will tell you that she loved the improvement.

If, for example, you want to lose weight, be a thinner you, you might want to emulate Michael Ventrella, who was the winner of the $250,000 prize in the 2010 season of “The Biggest Loser.” In Selling Fearlessly, I said this about Michael Ventrella: At his final weigh-in, victorious Ventrella weighed a svelte 262 pounds, having lost 50.19% of his body weight, and was the winner of the $250,000 prize. The before-and-after camera shots left me astonished and brought tears to my eyes. Ventrella said, ‘I knew going onto that ranch that I needed to save my life.’”

If you’re going to make a New Year’s resolution, you better be prepared to make a serious Commitment to implement it, like Michael Ventrella did. A New Year’s resolution without an ironclad Commitment is like deciding to cook an omelet without cracking any eggs. As I said in Selling Fearlessly, “I’m going to give it a shot” is not a commitment. “I’m going to stick with it as long as I can” is not a commitment. A commitment is as irrevocable as enlisting in the French Foreign Legion; it’s hard as a diamond, inflexible as a block of steel. It’s an ironclad vow, a sworn pledge, to yourself and your Creator…” And this: “Former NBA coach Pat Riley said, ‘There are only two options regarding commitment. You’re either in or out. There’s no such thing as a life in-between.’”

Here’s to the new and improved you. Congratulations!


On December 21st, I published a guest post from my friend Dave Brock entitled “Making A Difference In 2013: Help 1000’s Get Access To Clean Water!” I hope you’ll take a moment to reread it:′s-get-access-to-clean-water-by-david-brock/ I know you’re inundated by charity requests this time of year, but I hope you’ll pay attention to this one, even if it’s only for a few dollars, because it’s a great cause and it means a lot to a terrific guy–Dave Brock. Here’s a post Dave put up yesterday on his site; I hope you’ll take a moment to read it, too: Again, even if it’s only a few dollars–it’ll mean a lot!