Please Don’t Follow Me For the Wrong Reasons

Robert Terson

Please don’t follow me for any of the following wrong reasons:

1. Your main objective is to build up your Twitter, LinkedIn, Google+, Facebook numbers; if quantity of numbers is more important to you than establishing relationships and the quality of those relationships.

2. You’re out to sell me something, offer me the “opportunity of a lifetime” (*rolls his eyes*) right off the bat without bothering to show an interest in me, without caring to find out who I am, what my interests are, anything else about me.

3. If you’re so self-centered that it’s all about you, that the other guy is simply there to serve your purposes, nothing more.

4. If you’ve never noticed or cared that half the term “social media” is made up of the word “social.” If you just see social media as a tool for getting what you want, never mind the social part.

5. That you think actually talking to one of your networking connections would be a waste of your precious time.

6. That deep down you really don’t like people, that you think of them as a pain in the ass, a nuisance you have to put up with in order to do business with them.

7. That deep down you don’t believe in what you’re doing, what you’re pushing on people to serve your own agenda.

8. That you have a thin skin and can’t take constructive criticism.

9. That you’re pushing a political agenda.

10. You’re going to soon unfollow me because you want a lot of followers in juxtaposition to very few people you’re following. That you’re interested in ratios, not strong relationships.

11. You’re a White Sox fan. (Okay, I’m just kidding on that one.)

I’m interested in real people, real relationships; not numbers, not superficial connections. I want to talk to people, really get to know them, be a positive force to better their lives. The best part of my retirement career has been, and continues to be, the wonderful friendships I’ve established with such great people. That in many cases they’ve led to collaborative ventures that have benefited me is, well, simply a bonus, a byproduct.

So, please follow me if you’re here for the right reasons, but don’t follow me if you’re not.

Here’s a link to a pertinent article entitled “Networking vs Netweaving: What is the Difference and Benefits?” posted by by my good friend Kenneth Darryl Brown at; I hope you’ll listen to the interview with Bob Littell: