“How Can I Get Through to You?” by Terrence Real

Robert Terson

How Can I Get Through to You?Those of you who know me well, know that I’ve been married to Nicki for a long time; we celebrated our 36th anniversary on January 14th. I’m so in love with this Woman that I can’t think straight half the time; as I often state, when she walks into a room my knees go weak. I try to not let a day go by without showing her in some tangible way how I feel about her. I mean, if you’re going to be married, why not be married, why not wallow in romance? Tell me, really, Is there anything in life better than romance? I don’t think so; not from my perspective anyway.

Not to say Nicki and I haven’t had our great issues—we have (Who doesn’t?). Some doozies. More than once we came up against the edge of the envelope and almost called it quits, but instead hung in there and got through it; and each time we got through it, our marriage strengthened and we got closer. At one point I started telling people, “I fell in love with my wife all over again!”

If you want to live a successful life, not just a successful business life, let me suggest you focus on your marriage/significant relationship like you’ve never done before. Make it the number one priority it should be; decide to be in love with your partner and give him/her everything you’ve got, every drop of unconditional love you have within you. Show him/her what he/she means to you, by never allowing a day to go by without expressing your love in concrete appreciative ways. Don’t just speak the words of love, display your love in action!

Which brings me to the book I’d like to recommend to you today. It’s entitled How Can I Get Through to You? by Terrence Real, an internationally recognized Family Therapist who is the Relationship expert for Good Morning America and ABC News. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute (RLI), which offers workshops for couples, individuals, and parents around the country, along with a professional training program for clinicians who want to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology.

Terry Real has more than one book out, but the one I want you to pay special attention to is the aforementioned How Can I Get Through to You? I thought so much of this book (to say it had a profound effect on me and my marriage is the understatement of the year!) that I bought a copy for Nicki, then bought copies for my children and quite a number of friends. Yeah, it’s that fantastic!

I’m not going to tell you anything about the book—I don’t want to spoil the wonderful trip it’s going to take you on; but please trust me, this is a great book that’s going to let you in on what’s important to establish a AAA marriage. I’ll just say: when you get to page 202, memorize, like I did, Terry Real’s five essential capacities to establishing a fabulous marriage/relationship.

I’d love to know what the book did for you. I hope you’ll let me know.


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